Wow, hey it has been awhile. I thought I was going to be on this kick where I tried really hard to write more often, and I did, like twice, but then nothing. Sorry. Sometimes I feel like I have everything and nothing to write about all at the same time, and that makes it hard to siphon off what I want to say. I am not sure that I have it figured out now even so you might have to just bear with the ramblings of a crazy stay-at-home mom.
Plus, there is now the expectation of some type of Christmas card letter thrown in here too-AGGGHHH!!!!! Ok, I think I can I think can…
This time last year we were hoping and praying and begging on our hands and knees for a post-doc position for Pete, and that did not happen. We were left wounded in our faith and wondering just where we would end up because it could have been literally anywhere. Pete applied to jobs way out west, way up north, way down south, and out to the east. We ended up just a couple hours from Purdue in the suburbs of Chicago. Do you like it? This is obviously the question we get asked the most. Pete is definitely feeling at home here. He feels like he can relate to the energy and personality of Chicagoans. I like it- I do. I haven’t met anyone who wasn’t nice or helpful or kind. I had high hopes of one day getting closer to KY, not further away, so I am adjusting, but it hasn’t been a hard or depressing move, so that is great news all around.
How are the kids doing? Second most asked question. They are doing well. I think. I hope. Knock on wood. Jack has always been Jack. He is a bit much and he continues to be. It has always been hard for him to make friends and this is still true. He plays with kids at recess, we have him involved in Tae Kwon Do and Boy Scouts, and so as much as we can help him find friends we have. My kids have never been huge let’s have people at our house kids, I think this is because there are so many of them that adding extra people is just too much. *Maybe it is too much for me. He has had some issues with discipline at school, but this school is nothing like I have experienced before. They have a social worker, an occupational therapist, a psychologist, differentiated learning specialists, speech therapists, and I feel like the list could go on. They have two recesses and PE every day. There is a standing desk in his classroom he can use, there are ball seats for kids who need those, there is so much ability and willingness to pull a kid out to help them- I can’t believe it. So Jack is getting help from a large support team who are willing to help him learn how to take care of himself and hopefully postpone any need to medicate him, plus give him tools he can use now and later in life.
Luke is in Kindergarten! He is being being pulled out as well for different things like— how to hold a pencil correctly?? (I guess there are studies connecting correctly holding a pencil to better reading), speech, and extra help with letters. He likes school and the kids. He is different from Jack in that he really wants to hang out with friends more often. I need to work on that. I haven’t been the best at making that happen. He doesn’t have much to share at the end of the day. He says he forgets. He gets frustrated when I try to push beyond that. I try to make him tell me at least 3 things that happened- sometimes it is as simple as telling me he ate all his lunch because most of the time he can’t finish it all! He hasn’t been signed up for any extra stuff yet, but in January he will start with basketball. I am interested to see how that goes. At the moment he is looking forward to it.
Thomas decided he would go to pre-school or bust this year. So pre-school it was. His birthday is just a few days shy of the cut off here in IL, so he will be 2 years behind Luke in school instead of 1. (They are 17 months apart). We have talked about petitioning to have him go earlier because if ever a kid was ready our Thomas is, but I don’t think we will. There is no harm in waiting, and he can just do pre-school again with the same teacher that he loves so much and already knows. He has made a couple friends and just beams every time he walks out of the school. He is in heaven.
This leaves Meg and Robert. I guess this time last year Robert wasn’t born. It seems like he has been part of the family for so long now. Meg is starting to talk now, she definitely communicates her wants, needs, and dislikes. She is testing boundaries and can do everything herself. She loves cats, Daniel Tiger, and boots. She hates skirts and dresses and being told no. Robert is pulling up, cruising around, and is so close to standing without holding on to anything. Meg loves Robert and already you can tell they are gonna best best friends (maybe worst enemies too). For anyone keeping track they are 13 months apart.
We added a cat to our family. I don’t mind Quantum near as much as I thought I would. If we had to get a cat, and I guess we did according to everyone else, this was the right cat for us. Tigran, our golden, turned 11 and suddenly got much older. He hurt himself in KY over Thanksgiving and didn’t really recover- he got much worse actually. It has been very depressing to watch. He stays on the floor in our bedroom almost all day, he can’t climb up stairs or get onto the couch without either help or a lot of effort (so much so that he normally doesn’t try), he stopped eating for awhile, not even to steal food from the table!!, so we took him to the vet. He is on pain meds right now but they want to do an X-Ray at the beginning of the year. He was born at my in-laws house to their dog so we’ve had him for his whole life, and I hope he has a few good years left.
These are the basics of our year. There have been highs and lows. So it goes with life. We get by and manage, sometimes barely, but we do. We also laugh, tell stories, and love each other a lot, so I’d say overall we are doing well. I never have expectations about the New Year, I don’t do resolutions, and in keeping with that tradition I will just say- I hope 2016 goes well. I hope we are given all the tools and resources we need to manage and survive any difficulties or sorrows that come our way, and I hope we aren’t too busy focusing on the negative to miss out on all the positive.
This super cute sleeping baby is definitely a positive.
